Yahoo search for a â€œbridal agency Ukraineâ€ yields over 82,000 results. For a country, which has been locked away to the rest of the world for years and has gained independence a little over ten years ago, such results seem overwhelming. Why has this business flourished in the FSU countries within the last few years? Are women of these countries on a prowl for a rich husband? Are they raking around for an unforgettable short-term romance? Or are they seeking something more profound like true love and someone to make them happy?
Lucky for me, when questions began swarming in my head, a good girlfriend of mine, who has lived in Italy for a number of years, was in town to visit her family. So, instead of digging through piles of statistics and wracking my brain in search of the answers, I turned to the source with first-hand experience.
Before I move on, let me make myself clear: by no means does this article include motives and wants of every woman, who submits her profile to a bridal agency. And I will be the first to encourage foreigners: do exercise caution once you choose the path of a bridal agency search. In the past, some ladies from the FSU countries have provided more than enough negative publicity, but donâ€™t let that discourage you and miss out on a chance to gift someone the pleasure of communication and a possibility to find love. With that in mind, I proceedâ€¦
When I began questioning the motives of women who take a chance on bridal agencies, my first discovery was quite disturbing. One of the top reasons why FSU women prefer foreigners is that men at their home countryâ€¦ arenâ€™t good enough.
â€œMany people talk about how awful it is (for FSU women) to live abroad and tell you horror stories. Why not admit that the reason is in men at home, who, in my opinion, donâ€™t know what a family is?â€ â€“ was a comment from Natasha, who used to be Russian Bride in response to the article in one of the leading Russian papers, which condemned marriages to foreigners. â€œUnfortunately, â€˜Russianâ€™ men have got a long way to go to keep up with men from abroad.â€
Some bridal agencies will give you the same information. An American journalist, who took a â€œfind-the-brideâ€ trip to Ukraine as a part of his investigation for a story, says in his on-line journal that the instructor on the tour explained to him: Ukrainian and Russian men â€œdrink, philander, alternately beat and neglect women.â€ Obviously, not every FSU man treats women this way. Nevertheless, a general conception that most Russian/Ukrainian women share of men in their home countries comes down to a few common words: irresponsible, hard-hearted, too demanding and not willing to provide for their children, let alone their mother. Given that FSU women are admired throughout history for their strong family ties and devotion, it is not surprising that many of them come to bridal agencies expecting to find someone trustworthy, reliable and willing to create and nourish the family.